Let’s Talk About Birth…

Almost every pregnant woman will have gone through scenarios in their heads – good and bad – about how they are going to release their little human into the world. For some, they live in fear of that day arriving with all of those ‘what if’ ideas circling their already racing minds (that was me) and for others it’s how they are going to completely boss the situation and have the perfect birthing image (that was also me). I was only the latter after I discovered hypnobirthing.

I embraced pregnancy, the highs and the lows and all that graces you on the way. I invested so much time in Doctor Google and seeking advice from mums that got shit done that it’s no wonder I came across hypnobirthing – marketed as pain free birth! YES PLEASE! Anything to make that final hurdle to meeting my baby a little easier. I then researched the fudge out of it! I’m glad I did.

The whole concept makes sense – the fear, pain, tension cycle. Breathing slowly in and out to relieve painful contractions. Positive thoughts. You’ve probably heard of how to release oxytocin and endorphins and techniques in hypnobirthing help you to do this during childbirth! This seemed impossible to me to begin with but being educated on these methods made it all seem so simple and straightforward.

In all honesty, I probably wouldn’t have booked a course due to the cost of it. But, the proprietor of Cotswold Birthing – through facebook – broke down the cost of her one to one, tailor built package. It was so personal to my husband and I, we were sold instantly!  Cotswold Birthing are very reasonably priced at first glance, and when you look at what your course includes and hear of the success rate (it worked for me) then it is well worth the money!

Oli, proprietor and your hypno midwife is a wealth of knowledge and her experience and passion reflect on what you will learn. I picked up so much, and retained a lot of information just from her stories and I was fascinated.

As well as running Cotswold Birthing, Oli is a full time Midwife in a Gloucestershire hospital wanting to start a masters degree, she is actively involved in a midwifery charity, The African Maternity Link and is a mum herself. She is Super Mum!

Now, hypnobirthing… Prepare to get hippy and spiritual, you and your birthing partner, it’s great! You are taught relaxation skills that you can apply to all aspects of your personal and professional life too. This helps you gain the mindset of a more easy going version of yourself. You will begin to ooze positivity and day to day mundane errands don’t seem pointless anymore, everything has purpose. It doesn’t change your life’s dynamics, it changes the way you see things.

You learn about your body and what you go through during pregnancy and labour and this is vital to eliminate any fear surrounding your birthing journey. The whole concept of hypnobirthing is amazing and it works. In my journey, I had to be induced which was not what I had wished for and then I ended up having an emergency cesarean section which I also did not want, but I asked appropriate questions throughout, had knowledge of what was going to happen to me and dealt with pain from my contractions, drug free, and with breathing techniques I had been taught and that experience did give me the birth that I wanted.

And then, hello to our Milo Jack. 25th June 2017 and our whole world was made.

For those of you in the Cotswolds, and interested in hypnobirthing: https://www.facebook.com/cotswoldbirthing/

And for information on this charity: http://www.theafricanmaternitylink.co.uk/

 

Pregnant with a clubfoot baby

Pregnancy should be a breeze, it’s the most natural thing that a woman can do. Right? Really?! Then, help! 

This was my view, pre-pregnant Liss, pushing my body on the regular at gym sessions and running or on the flip side, drinking lots of beer and gin! But that’s nothing in comparison to the miracle growth inside you, and everything else that comes and surprises you before that little baby makes their appearance. 

First trimester – sent to test you physically, mentally and emotionally. The morning sickness, extra toilet stops, broodiness, mood swings and that lovely shade of grey in your skin that only disappears when you look slightly flushed from throwing your guts up in the morning! A real morning work out! It’s a mixture of emotions in these 14 weeks or so, right up until that first dating scan when you realise your baby is doing okay and you get your ‘D-Day’ confirmed. For us, it was June 12th. And waiting for this date was like we were 5 and a half and waiting until our 6th birthday party because jumping on a bouncy castle after jelly and ice cream is the best day of your life! What a great few weeks to look back on. 

Onto the second trimester – when we found out our little baby boy would be born with talipes (clubfoot). Mentally and emotionally, the second trimester was the toughest. I spent hours a day on google trying to find as much information on clubfoot as possible but no matter how much I searched, I was getting told what I needed to hear. I spent some days so far into a google search that I would wake up in the night after nightmares about my parenting skills. What I really needed to be told was that everything was going to be fine and my baby boy would be beautiful! Now for my physical changes, where luckily, I felt fabulous! My once small boobs were finally growing whilst my stomach was still relatively flat and I was still frequently visiting the gym without rushing to the toilet to throw up. I felt on top of the world when I completed a spin class and stood up to reveal my baby bump and when asked how long I had left I would happily reply ‘only 10 weeks to go’ and that feeling lasted for a whole 3 days. When you feel as though you’ve only got 10 weeks to go for about 12 weeks, you definitely start feeling a bit deflated and that’s when the third trimester feels kick in!

Oh, third trimester, how I was glad to say goodbye to you and really miss you all at the same time! Having a lovely round baby bump gives you the confidence you never had to wear those tight dresses and plunging necklines because you look great! Personally, I love to see beautiful mummas to be embracing their fantastic ever changing bodies and showing off their lovely lumps and bumps. It really is something to be proud of, your body goes through so much and you have the opportunity to talk to strangers in public about your excitement towards your upcoming family life. I loved the excitement people felt for you because you felt it too and it’s refreshing to have the positivity surrounding you. It was a breath of fresh air for us especially, because although we were over the moon that we were bringing a life into the world, we also worried about the care and treatment surrounding us and as new parents you want to be as prepared as possible but when even professionals can’t give you a timeline of events, you are left in the dark.

I spent months looking for ‘clubfoot essentials’ and methods that the doctors may use to correct his feet but now it’s here, I don’t think it was much help. In future posts I will truthfully talk about what has helped and what has been a time waster or money waster! 
Please also remember, I am from the UK so Milo’s treatment will be slightly different to other countries – or counties even!