Back to work and the start of normality

It was my first week back at work this week and I was more than ready for the weekend to greet us – and leave in a flash! Day to day, I’ve been tested on my organisational skills, Milo’s dad has had his patience tested and Milo has shown us that he is a super baby, taken everything in his stride and embraced his new routine. Well, it is only week one and I know that children can change their minds with no warning so I’m not going to get too excited about how smoothly we can complete our crazy week. Besides, week two is bound to be chaos! I’m a one man band for the majority of the week and weekend with Milo’s dad being away, so I need to be on my A game. Easier said than done.

What I do know about sending Milo to Nursery is that the staff know their shit! They also know what Chris and I are like as people (and parents) so they double check everything with us to ensure we are on task. After day one, they also know to remind Dad to leave a car key when swapping over vehicles on Nursery pick up; to avoid any more duplicate journeys to and from home/Nursery. Thank god for those lovely nursery nurses!

After a full on week, it’s only natural that mum and dad feel they need a date night and this one was booked in for a few months in anticipation of a crazy maternity to work transition. So it was a big date night! An evening of music by a Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons tribute act called Walk Like A Man. As a music lover, I had high expectations and they didn’t disappoint! This wasn’t even the wine talking. I would’ve had the same experience if I was sober! This was definitely the perfect reward for me as a working mum.

The remainder of our weekend followed the same note. Maybe it’s the shorter amount of time spent with loved ones that I’ve treasured, or just a break from chaos. Whatever the reason, I like it. This new routine. I’ve even started to meal plan (and stick to it, most of the time). Cue fitness progression bragging rights – if I ever get there!

Happy weekend everyone! I hope you feel as though you’ve survived a very wintery week in March!

Girl Power! For International Women’s Day

It’s true. Girl power is a thing! I definitely feel that females are building each other up, complimenting and sticking by each other and appreciating what we bring to society. Whether it’s Kim Kardashian, Theresa May or Emma Gonzalez, we love to see women succeed and thrive. So we should! We’ve had women in the past work extremely hard for gender equality, support and the honour to just be taken seriously, and this should be etched in our minds so that we are eternally grateful for the opportunities we now have, with thanks to those historic events.

Feminism to me, is based around gender equality. Women being given the same opportunities as men, being listened to because of their views and not because they look good and sister solidarity. I’m not extreme in my views because historically, feminists did just want equal opportunities for men and women. I believe this happens but there is still a long way to go on some areas of society.

I’m aware my feminist views are very vague and I could quite easily be sitting on the fence when it comes to opinions here. However, I do feel strongly about extreme feminists and how they can make it very hard for men, businesses and the media to say and do anything that favour males. Men definitely get given a hard time these days. If men are succeeding too quickly or before their female colleagues, then it needs to be investigated because this is clearly not fair. It’s favouring males, the pay gap is worsening, they start to feel they have more power over women and they are given far more opportunities than us females. And so it continues. You get the picture. If a woman succeeds quicker than her male colleagues, what happens? What is the reaction? She is fantastic, a role model, deserving of such rewards. A strong, powerful individual who we should enforce as a role model for our daughters. The support for the woman here is amazing and so true but it should be equal to the male colleague too. He most probably works hard and deserves the promotion too. Yes, it’s easier for men sometimes because it is less likely that they have distractions from childcare and pregnancy and maternity leave. But it’s easier for women in other areas too. Women talk about their emotions a lot easier than men (on the most part) so are more likely to request time off for their well being.

Moving on from feminists and the feminism debacle, my message on international women’s day…

Send love to the ladies in your life. Appreciate all that they do and bring to society. Build your sisters up and help them succeed. Shout out to those women you see trying their hardest and be their rock when you’re needed. You come across so much negativity in your life, and not liking someone because their hair is in better condition than yours seems a little silly. Make a challenge for yourself and give out compliments to strangers today, and everyday. It makes people feel good and without beating around the bush, you will feel good for it too. So give it a go! I’ll let you know how I get on.

What I would really like for Mother’s Day

I’m counting down the days for my first mummy celebration,

I’ve got my own special list that I thought up with no hesitation!

You might be surprised to read that shimmery gifts I wanted not,

I’ve thought outside the box and I’m really not asking for a lot!

Now, my little tike can not yet decide how he wants to treat his mum,

I’m happy to wait patiently for that special time to come.

Right now, his dad needs to be kept upon his toes,

Because these requests may shock him at first, but deep down, he knows!

When our baby alarm strikes at six AM,

Up you get, it’s bottle time. You really are a gem!

Breakfast follows after to get us ready for the day,

Not just for him but for us as well, eggs in bed – the best way!

Next up on my list, is something again you can do for free,

A tidy kitchen to walk into, it’s been cleaned and not by me!

This cuts out a chore from my day to make room for fun activities,

A pub lunch and bottle of prosecco to add to the festivities?

When all that is done and it’s time to return back home,

Family time on the sofa would be nice, I don’t want to be alone.

It’s my day after all and I’ve been busy being mum,

So pop some daffodils in a vase and say they’re from our son.

Before I finish my little list of things I have been wishing for,

I’d like you to know that my husband already does this and lots more!

My poem has been purely to entertain those that read it,

And you can get an idea of what us mums ask for, at least a little bit!

Remember this day to celebrate what is done for you,

It’s not just Mums but Aunts and Nans can be thanked too.

Acknowledge those stepping in to be your greatest role model,

Reminisce and appreciate them, and give them a big cuddle!