What I would really like for Mother’s Day

I’m counting down the days for my first mummy celebration,

I’ve got my own special list that I thought up with no hesitation!

You might be surprised to read that shimmery gifts I wanted not,

I’ve thought outside the box and I’m really not asking for a lot!

Now, my little tike can not yet decide how he wants to treat his mum,

I’m happy to wait patiently for that special time to come.

Right now, his dad needs to be kept upon his toes,

Because these requests may shock him at first, but deep down, he knows!

When our baby alarm strikes at six AM,

Up you get, it’s bottle time. You really are a gem!

Breakfast follows after to get us ready for the day,

Not just for him but for us as well, eggs in bed – the best way!

Next up on my list, is something again you can do for free,

A tidy kitchen to walk into, it’s been cleaned and not by me!

This cuts out a chore from my day to make room for fun activities,

A pub lunch and bottle of prosecco to add to the festivities?

When all that is done and it’s time to return back home,

Family time on the sofa would be nice, I don’t want to be alone.

It’s my day after all and I’ve been busy being mum,

So pop some daffodils in a vase and say they’re from our son.

Before I finish my little list of things I have been wishing for,

I’d like you to know that my husband already does this and lots more!

My poem has been purely to entertain those that read it,

And you can get an idea of what us mums ask for, at least a little bit!

Remember this day to celebrate what is done for you,

It’s not just Mums but Aunts and Nans can be thanked too.

Acknowledge those stepping in to be your greatest role model,

Reminisce and appreciate them, and give them a big cuddle!

The Five Reasons Why I’m Committing to Improving My Post Partum Body, Now!

The days are still short, nights are long, cold and dark and the only sweet stuff in the house is left over candy canes, and that just won’t do!

For every time I feel an ounce of motivation to get on the health and fitness wagon, I get five reasons to quit that come along with it. So, I’m being super strict with myself and I’ve searched deep to find the five reasons to get started now! I am trying hard to squish the quitting demons but occasionally Papa John calls my name and sends pizza!

So, here I am, 34 weeks pregnant and wearing a tight dress and very high heels (which you luckily can’t see in this photo, because as it turns out, pregnant swelling feet from dancing all night do not fit into beautiful, strappy heels… hello, little toes. Get back in my shoe!)

Although I started waddling and my face was round, I had confidence in the way I looked and wore clothes I wouldn’t normally wear. I was proud of my pregnant body, so why shouldn’t I be proud of what I have now?

1. Working on your body confidence should be priority!

I may not be where I want to be in regards to my size and shape, but I was carrying a baby 6 and a half months ago and I should be proud of that achievement alone, as well as how well I’ve done so far. Especially since we have just had Christmas and lots of cheese!

To improve body confidence, focus on clothing. I’m going to reward myself and my body with fresh threads that make me feel good and stop putting off buying an item of clothing because it’s not the size I should be buying. This is punishment. This is an unhealthy way of looking at the body I have. I’m going to find those areas I’ve worked hard on and show them off, even if that means skinny jeans that shoe off my ankles, because they look great and that’s about it! I’ll get there, one small body part at a time.

2. It’s January. Exercise will help me beat the blues.

I’m not expecting to love going for a run outside when it’s almost freezing, dark and raining but there’s something enjoyable about running in a group with like minded individuals that meet once a week and use this exercising opportunity to catch up with each other’s lives. Group exercise is encouraging and fun when you find something that suits you. I’ve become quite fond of this lifestyle

3. Milo will soon outrun me so I need to learn to keep up.

I’m doing that by putting him in the running buggy and running for my life. It gives me a head start because if he follows his dad, Milo will be lapping me with ease by age 3! Running isn’t just a good form of exercise, it’s good for the soul and your mental health. Being outdoors helps free your mind of negative thoughts and practicing mindfulness whilst you run reminds you how to release tension and just let go. And if you reap the benefits of the great outdoors, imagine how good it is for the little ones?!

4. Marbella hen and bridesmaid duties!

Yes. I want to feel good when wearing a bikini again. I initially thought that I want to look good in a bikini again but if I asked my husband for his opinion, he would say that I already do so I’m relying on the confidence I get when I’m sun kissed and less wobbly to know I’ve succeeded in getting my Marbella bikini body!

5. If I’m teaching my son to be the best version of himself, he needs role models. Starting with me.

This is what is most important in my eyes. If we all try to be the best version of ourselves, we show our children how we expect them to act. To follow this through life, I believe we are helping our children develop great qualities in themselves and they will learn to look for positive personality traits in others too.

Let’s all help contribute to a change in this world that gives hope and spreads love and good vibes between each other. Small changes from everyone now can make a huge difference for the future!

A Day in the Life of a Talipes Mummy

It sounds like a huge challenge with those boots and bar attached to Milo for 23 hours a day but, it’s normal life for us. Luckily, Milo is our first born so we don’t have anything to compare it to. The first two weeks of his life were crazy so when we finally settled into weekly hospital visits and plaster cast legs, we soon got used to that as being normal. So when it came to having his boots fitted, we were excited for less hospital trips and fun daily bath times.

Milo has his boots and bar on his feet for 23 hours a day, meaning the hour out of them is filled with squidgy cuddles, tummy time, baths and boot cleaning! He has his free time just before the bed time routine so we can tie in his bath and change of clothes with this, minimising the amount of times we take his boots off throughout the day.

Mornings for Milo are quite straightforward and not too different to anyone else’s routine. He wakes us up by blowing raspberries or yawning very loudly, and then it’s bottle time. Mr independent will only take his bottle when holding it himself now so as he’s doing this, lay like a king on our bed, I take the opportunity to get myself ready for the day. Typically it’s activewear thrown on, for actually being active and going to the gym! With bottle thrown across bed and mum all ready for the day, boots and bar come off so Milo can be dressed. There’s usually a bit of a whiff from the boots and Milo’s feet because that area does get sweaty. We try and eliminate as much smell as possible by using a wet wipe on the boots and then using talc on boots and feet.

Boots and bar back on and Milo’s ready too. Heading downstairs with a million things in my arms, including the little man has become the norm. He’s pretty easy to carry, no different from other babies that can hold themselves comfortably on your hip.

The first hurdle we come across happens every morning before breakfast. I usually forget to remove the bar between Milo’s feet to help him into his high chair so try to do it one handed whilst he’s in my arms. Sometimes I succeed, most of the time I have to admit defeat and sit him on my lap and start again. We have a wooden high chair so the metal bar banging against it is very noisy, which we forget are now very used to. We’ve often had visitors asking why we are banging so loud in our kitchen and it takes us a while to correct them and show them who is really making the noise.

Once breakfast is all done and Milo’s bag is packed for the day, we usually head out to our local leisure centre so mummy can have some free time and work out. It’s only about 20 minutes away by foot, and we really enjoy the walk. Especially now that Milo can see the world, forward facing in his stroller. We use the childminding facility for Milo so he gets about 2 hours play time on his own, which he loves. He especially enjoys the attention he gets from the lovely staff that run it. I get a little bit of time to myself too, a chance to blow off steam, talk to adults and relieve anxiety. It’s the reboot I need and will always recommend to any parent that feels like their life is on repeat, day after day.

After a little bit of me time, I always feel a lot more positive about motherhood. I remind myself I’m doing a good job, then I reward myself with coffee and cake with friends! Milo enjoys this part of the day too. He has someone new to entertain and show off too and they aren’t bored of singing his favourite songs to him, so he’s completely spoilt with love and attention the whole day.

We usually throw in another walk around our area, or walk to the shop (especially now it’s creme egg season again). Outdoor time is so important and good for the soul, it exhausts us both too, enough for Milo to nap and mummy to have a quick clean up!

House cleared, Milo well rested and dinner cooking and it’s finally time for a cup of tea. The stereotypical afternoon ritual of stay at home mums everywhere! It’s well needed and definitely deserved though. So, never deny yourself of that quick 10 minute rest whilst you can because as soon as you know, your husband comes home from work and that is the equivalent of 3 children returning home – a whirlwind!

Milo’s dad comes home and gets fed, then it’s their time together until bedtime at 7! In this time, I sit back and watch the two nutters play together and remember how lucky I am. Yes, sometimes I wish those boots and bar could be stored in the cupboard and never see the light of day, but Milo was born with talipes and that is a small part of him. He’s a tough cookie, he copes just fine and we will have great stories to tell him when he’s old enough to learn about his condition. Until then, we will continue to encourage him to be the best version of himself and enjoy life.

I think we’re doing a good job, and Milo’s pretty darn lucky to have two crazy, loving parents like us.