Happy New Year!

A big Happy New Year from all of us, especially Milo! We have been so busy over the Christmas period so I decided to take a small social media break, put pen to paper and plan my 2018 goals.

I spent some time reflecting on my year too. I started 2017 pregnant and sober and watching the London fireworks on television. I remember how odd it felt that I wasn’t drunk and cheering in the New Year with friends or dancing to our favourite band but it was so exciting knowing our baby would be born a few months after. I also only had 15 weeks left at work and it was the best countdown, especially as my bump grew and I had inquisitive pre schoolers asking me all things baby. Maternity leave arrived pretty quickly and in time for the May bank holiday. It should have been a relaxing time but as the days were long and warm, I did anything I could to stay outside. Mostly hanging out with my niece or my friends with kids, because they love to play outside (and so do I). When my due date arrived, so did the hottest days of the year and many trips to the farm shop for ice cream. I was greeted with a lot of “ahhhh, when are you due?” Or “how long have you got left?” At first it was funny when I told them I was due 4 days ago or Monday, last week! I soon got frustrated that Milo wasn’t here yet though and instead of staying close to home in case something happened, I went where I wanted and most of the time I was completely under prepared. Who knew you should carry your maternity notes everywhere?! 12 days over due and my husbands birthday, the day I was getting induced. I decided to take him out for a birthday breakfast, 30 minutes away. We knew Milo wasn’t going to come on his own so we really weren’t worried, although, everyone else was slightly concerned that we were so relaxed about it.

Milo arrived and we have been happier than ever. Although time has passed so quickly since then, we’ve enjoyed every single day together. We had a few bits of bad news last year that have changed small parts of our lives and the way we look at things. Despite this, we remain positive and grateful, even if it’s for five minutes that day.

Positivity is my main focus for the year, and as much as I used to cringe at those “New Year, New Me” posts on social media, I now welcome them because it means somebody has the positive outlook that they need to make improvements to live a happier life and I think we could all do with those kind of people around us.

I’m also going to make an extra special effort to praise people because I often think it, but never say it. So, lady I’ve seen running up the same road for the past 2 years… good job and great improvement!

With only 6 weeks until I go back to work, I will remain positive, prepare for my return and make the most of my coffee and cake dates!

Happy New Year!

Let’s Talk About Birth…

Almost every pregnant woman will have gone through scenarios in their heads – good and bad – about how they are going to release their little human into the world. For some, they live in fear of that day arriving with all of those ‘what if’ ideas circling their already racing minds (that was me) and for others it’s how they are going to completely boss the situation and have the perfect birthing image (that was also me). I was only the latter after I discovered hypnobirthing.

I embraced pregnancy, the highs and the lows and all that graces you on the way. I invested so much time in Doctor Google and seeking advice from mums that got shit done that it’s no wonder I came across hypnobirthing – marketed as pain free birth! YES PLEASE! Anything to make that final hurdle to meeting my baby a little easier. I then researched the fudge out of it! I’m glad I did.

The whole concept makes sense – the fear, pain, tension cycle. Breathing slowly in and out to relieve painful contractions. Positive thoughts. You’ve probably heard of how to release oxytocin and endorphins and techniques in hypnobirthing help you to do this during childbirth! This seemed impossible to me to begin with but being educated on these methods made it all seem so simple and straightforward.

In all honesty, I probably wouldn’t have booked a course due to the cost of it. But, the proprietor of Cotswold Birthing – through facebook – broke down the cost of her one to one, tailor built package. It was so personal to my husband and I, we were sold instantly!  Cotswold Birthing are very reasonably priced at first glance, and when you look at what your course includes and hear of the success rate (it worked for me) then it is well worth the money!

Oli, proprietor and your hypno midwife is a wealth of knowledge and her experience and passion reflect on what you will learn. I picked up so much, and retained a lot of information just from her stories and I was fascinated.

As well as running Cotswold Birthing, Oli is a full time Midwife in a Gloucestershire hospital wanting to start a masters degree, she is actively involved in a midwifery charity, The African Maternity Link and is a mum herself. She is Super Mum!

Now, hypnobirthing… Prepare to get hippy and spiritual, you and your birthing partner, it’s great! You are taught relaxation skills that you can apply to all aspects of your personal and professional life too. This helps you gain the mindset of a more easy going version of yourself. You will begin to ooze positivity and day to day mundane errands don’t seem pointless anymore, everything has purpose. It doesn’t change your life’s dynamics, it changes the way you see things.

You learn about your body and what you go through during pregnancy and labour and this is vital to eliminate any fear surrounding your birthing journey. The whole concept of hypnobirthing is amazing and it works. In my journey, I had to be induced which was not what I had wished for and then I ended up having an emergency cesarean section which I also did not want, but I asked appropriate questions throughout, had knowledge of what was going to happen to me and dealt with pain from my contractions, drug free, and with breathing techniques I had been taught and that experience did give me the birth that I wanted.

And then, hello to our Milo Jack. 25th June 2017 and our whole world was made.

For those of you in the Cotswolds, and interested in hypnobirthing: https://www.facebook.com/cotswoldbirthing/

And for information on this charity: http://www.theafricanmaternitylink.co.uk/